Hildy Lois Fentin
San Diego, CA
Licensed for 41 years
Law Degree
Awards
Primary Practice Area
Divorce and Family
Language
English
About
I have built a local and national reputation for excellence, integrity and professionalism, and have 35 years of experience handling complex Family Law matters. I graduated from Rutgers School of Law in 1980 and then gained admittance to the Massachusetts, Connecticut, and California bars. I was formerly a Legal Aid attorney in the San Francisco area, and moved to San Diego in 1986 where I have exclusively practiced Family Law. Divorce can be a challenging process, both emotionally and financially. Having litigated hundreds of Family Law matters, I have seen first hand the adverse affects traditional litigation has on divorcing families. The parties are usually left with a feeling of helplessness, frustration and anger, using valuable emotional and financial resources they will need to move on to the next chapter of their lives. I help couples resolve difficult Family Law issues peacefully with alternatives to litigation. Family Law Mediation and Collaborative Divorce enable both parties to maintain control over the decision making process while reaching a cost-effective, family-oriented resolution. Through mediation and the Collaborative Family my approach focuses on creative problem solving to reach peaceful resolutions. My process empowers clients to make informed decisions about their finances and their family.
Practices Areas
Family
Language
English
Contact
Henderson, Caverly & Pum, LLC12750 High Bluff DriveSuite 300San Diego, CA, 9213012750 High Bluff DriveSuite 300Suite 300San Diego, CA, 92130
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Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.
Hildy's steadiness and guidance was very much appreciated. I let the process get the better of me and my behavior was not consistent of who I am but Hildy's kindness and patience was a reflection of who she is. I am thankful for her legal and mediation wisdom in a most difficult time in my life.
Dealing with my wife would have been impossible without Hildy. She is a true impartial mediator and she did her best to ensure the fairest outcome for both of us, despite the somewhat contentious atmosphere. Hildy was well worth her fees. I highly recommend her.
Ms. Fentin was supposed to represent my child in a custody dispute. Hildy admitted that my child had told her about some of the abuse she experienced with the other parent, but stated that she did not believe her. My child suffered more abuse because of what Ms. Fentin did not "believe". This woman should not ever be trusted to protect a child! My child is now in college and doing well. This woman treated my child not as a person who mattered, but only as another name on a piece of paper. I was able to make a private deal with the other parent to give up rights, my child got the needed therapy (for years) and is now living a wonderful life. My child does remember the abuse, but is committed to making the most of life now and dealing with it when issues come up. You should also move on when seeking an attorney. There are wonderful ones out there, just not here.
Hildy was recommended to me by my attorney as an excellent Mediation divorce attorney. My spouse and I met with her, and she seemed pleasant and competent enough, but she also said she would be clearly in our face if either of us got out of hand or acted in a way that would harm the mediation process. We signed up, hoping the whole process would take the minimum six months and a day. Early on, my spouse got caught in a number of lies and deceptions, and cancelled a number of meetings and came to meetings unprepared or didn't do what was agreed on. From what my attorney said, this was to be expected. What I did not expect was that Hildy would grow more and more frustrated with my spouse and expect me to be the one to find a common ground, as my spouse just sat there with folded arms. It got to the point that Hildy was so frustrated that she herself was simply diffilult to be around, which was disconcerting because she was supposed to be the professional. Meetings became even more contentious becauuse Hildy was so argumentative and short tempered. Eventually, the process had gone on for so long that my attorney and I discusssed ending the whole thing and filing for divorce in regular court, but we decided we already had too much time and money invested in the process to pull out. Near the end of my mediation odeal, I told Hildy the process had gone on too long because she had not kept up her end of the bargain by keeping us BOTH on point. Was my experience simply an anomoly? I don't know, but it sure was not as advertised.